I’m out as ace, and open about it, but I don’t feel like it’s a relevant part of who I am in most cases. It’s nobody’s business whether or not I feel sexual attraction/desire if I’m not currently seeing (or interested in seeing) anybody - which I’m not. So I’m probably not as open about being ace as I could (should?) be, but I really do think that my asexuality is only relevant to me and anyone expressing a romantic/sexual interest in me. Fandom and gaming and my other interests are more relevant.

…Except that I also work with kids, in Girl Guides/Scouts, and I want them to know about all the different ways people are put together, and that it’s ok to not be a member of the majority. So when we all have talks, and the other Leaders tell the girls about having crushes and boyfriends and how although some people might be starting to pair off (the oldest kids I work with are 11) or wanting to, if you’re not ready for it yet yourself, that’s ok, I feel like I’m doing my girls a huge disservice by not immediately jumping in with “or if you find you’re more interested in girls, that’s also ok; or you might never want to date anybody, and that’s also ok - I am asexual and proud of it, my zucchini is a lesbian and my best friend is straight and I’m proud and happy to have them in my life, especially because neither has ever made me feel like less of a human being because our orientations didn’t align.” Except that that’s not the point of the talk, and I don’t want to derail the discussion with my Queer Agenda.