Anonymous asked: How do you know whether you're demiromantic or not? I identify as aromantic but when I look back sometimes I get crushes... Maybe? It's always with people I've known for quite a bit. I'm not sure if they're crushes though.
A couple weeks ago, I facilitated a closed asexual dialogue workshop at a conference and had about 12 people show up. It was the first time I had ever been in the same room as so many other asexual-spectrum folks, and it was caking awesome : ) There were even two ace themed outfits! Gotta represent.
I’m proud to be demisexual. And my boyfriend of over 2 years, who’s heterosexual, loves that I am too, which makes me love it and him even more.
Recently my mom randomly told me she would like grandchildren, but it’s ok if it doesn’t happen and if I don’t get married. That’s big for her. She’s been married 3 times, because she grew up being told something was wrong with you if no one wanted to marry you. She and I talked about the options of adoption someday, not for her, but for me. She still doesn’t...
Anonymous asked: Personally, I can joke about sex and have been aroused before, but the whole idea of it afterwords torments me and disgusts me. I never normally create my own thoughts of sex. It's normally my partner who would want to, and I'd only agree for their happiness. The general idea of sex really puts me off, but I don't mind a nice relationship. In fact, I prefer a relationship without...
roxisangel asked: What are squishes?
When I first read about squishes, I just went NOPE. Too complicated for me, I’ve never experienced it, stop thinking about it your brain will hurt. But I just got one this past weekend, and it is sooo niiiiicce… It’s all these positive emotions without any expectations and no romantic things I don’t understand… And I am really looking forward to the future right now,...
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Anonymous asked: ive been wondering lately if i've been aromantic, as well as an ace. on saturday, a friend and i made out (while inebriated) and they told me that they like me, and i've been thinking if i like them back. but i think my biggest problem is that whenever i think about it, i only really think about when we kissed and i can't think about much else but that. i'm still wondering if...
Anonymous asked: I'm a panromantic ace. For a bit now I've been contemplating and would like to try having sexual contact. My friend (who has been very wonderful) mentioned a while ago that he wouldn't mind if I basically used him to test stuff out and see how it goes. I don't know how to bring that sort of thing up or if his offer still stands or if I could even go through with it if I asked....
Anonymous asked: I used to identify as asexual, but I recently discovered that I'm demisexual. However, my sexual attraction- not arousal but true attraction- isn't consistent. I don't always find myself sexually attracted to my partner- I feel as I did when I was ace. But then at other times, I am sexually attracted. Again, it's not a question of my sexual arousal coming and going, it's...
Anonymous asked: I'm demisexual and panromantic, exploring possibly being agendered. I've only been aware of my sexuality/romanticism(?) for a year, and I just got out of a shitty relationship a few months ago. I recently fell for a good friend, complete with sexual and romantic desires, but I'm starting to doubt myself and freak out. I think because of the world we live in, I'm convinced that...