December 2011
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Anonymous asked: This is the previous anon--still not sure if I'm ace or gray-a or just nervous about sex or something, but my boyfriend and I have reached a mutual understanding. He says he's fine with my dislike of kissing and going further, and that he's okay with keeping it at the level I want, and we're not breaking up! I'm so, so happy right now! I feel like the pressure's off,...
Anonymous asked: I wanted to say something to the last anon: My past relationship was exactly the same. I didn't know it at the time; I just thought I wasn't "into him." I DID love him, but he was hypersexual and I wound up being grey. Not the greatest mix. And of course he took everything personally. Just... don't let it get you down. I hope that one day we can all find someone that...
Anonymous asked: I've been in a relationship--my first, actually--for nearly a year, and as things are starting to pick up physically I've been realizing I'm not into it. And it's not because of him; I love him. I just don't want to do anything but cuddle and go on dates and do vanilla things that don't involve sex. It led to something of a sexual crisis, and to find blogs like this...
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I feel guilty about the fact that even though I’m asexual, I have high standards for physical appearance and how a person presents themselves. I would want any romantic partner of mine to be beautiful, and that sounds horrible, especially because I wouldn’t want to do anything with their beauty.
Anonymous asked: I'm not the previous Anon, but I was wondering... where does one really start with "throwing themselves into the community"? I've been following ace blogs for a while now, sure, but a lot of the ace tumblrs are personal and it feels weird to sort of butt in on something, especially the more charged debates. I would love to know more ace people besides myself but I am honestly...
Anonymous asked: Okay, so I'm confused. I'll start this off by saying I'm female and I'm not sexually attracted to guys but in some occasions be sexually attracted to girls, but rarely. I don't feel as though I'm lesbian because those feelings don't motivate me to do anything, only masturbate. I think I may be ace or demisexual, but I really don't know. I prefer to just not...
Anonymous asked: I didn't think I was ace until I kept checking this blog and realizing that I relate to all these people. I struggle with the fact that I don't know anyone I could talk to about this. If I even said something like I was asexual, people would just think I'm trying to be a special snowflake OR they'd just say I'm insecure because I haven't dated anyone. Im just so...
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Anonymous asked: I really just need to hear that its going to be okay. I have been questioning and confused about my sexuality forever, and pretty convinced I'm Demi or Grey-A. I'm so terrified I'll never be in a real relationship because no one will love me if I'm "like this". Please tell me it'll be okay, that there is hope for me? That being a 20-year-old single / virgin...
francesing asked: This is so helpful, thanks ♥
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I don't care who you are.
I have no time for anyone who tries to say that problems relating to my asexuality are not as “legitimate” or as “important” than problems relating to other sexual orientations, or gender, or anything else.
THEY ARE TO ME. And they probably would be to you if you lived in my shoes.
I have suffered oppression and marginalisation. I know these things well. I have been...
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I noticed a coworker of mine wearing a back...
One of my coworkers wears a black ring on her middle finger and a purple, black and white bracelet everyday. It took me a while to finally ask about it. She had never even heard about asexuality before. The black ring was actually a mood ring and the ace colors were just a coincidence. Discouraging…
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This happened on Christmas, while talking to my favourite cousin.
Him : So I’ve watched the Tintin movie last week.
Me : Yeah? Was it good?
Him : Well… it was like the books : asexual.
Me : Some people actually are like that, you know. Why shoudln’t that be reflected in a movie?
Him : There is no such thing as being asexual.
FUUUUUUUUUUUUUU he...
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I came out as gray-a yesterday. It feels AMAZING!
sherlocksblanket asked: Happy holidays! I've never personally submitted a secret but I know this blog is a great resource for many. Thank you!
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Anonymous asked: So here's the thing that confuses me. I masturbate, and yes I think about other people while I masturbate but I've never actually thought about myself with another person while I masturbate. I also have absolutely no desire to have sex with other people (which is probably why I've never fantasized about it). What exactly do you think this makes me? :/
Anonymous asked: It's hard being a heteroromantic ace. How can I show someone I like them? I feel I can't even flirt without it being taken as a sexual thing. I feel so lost. How on earth can I ever explain to anyone I like that I'm interested in them, but not sexually attracted to them? I can't change my feelings and lack of sex, but I just feel like I won't be able to get close to...
Anonymous asked: i identify as asexual, but don't know how to identify romantically. i feel like our culture has ingrained in us the idea that sex = relationship, so I can't figure out if what I want is just very close friends, or if there's something "more" for someone with no interest in sex. If I desire closeness with males and females, does that make me biromantic? how am I to...
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For all those out there who think they might not be completely asexual because they masturbate in cause of a libido, if you are still a teenager think that it might be because of your hormones playing in! Your body is still developing and responding in bizarre ways. I personally am now an adult and I don’t have those hormone levels problems anymore.
Asks will be answered soon - sorry for the delay (I’m not ignoring you!)
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You, too, can have small victories!
I’m a gender-neutral panromantic asexual. I told my mother I was an ace the same day I told her that I was dating my first boyfriend while in college. She said it was a phase and didn’t understand, and I sent her a link to AVEN in the hopes she’d educate herself on the matter. That was four months ago. Now I’m home and we were able to have a proper talk about it, and she...
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I identify as romantic ace. For the first time since recognizing my asexuality, there’s someone who I could possibly get into a relationship with in the near future. I have no idea how to go about having an asexual romantic relationship, and am absolutely terrified at the idea of needing to have that conversation and possibly scaring away someone I like so much. Help!
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